Apparently I am not alone in this. This is a problem of others, particularly over 50 women.
The conclusion I came to was that being visible had little to do with youth or sex appeal. It came from a feeling of empowerment, and from a belief that I should be noticed. There’s a commercial on TV now that shows a woman all dressed up, coming down the stairs. The voice over says “It’s the difference between ‘I’m here’ and ‘Here I am.’”Thus, if I wish to be visible, it is up to me to make my presence known.
So the question is now: do I prefer to be quiet or visable?